When You Believe…




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Every tattoo on my body has some personal meaning to it. This is a marking that, unless I have it covered, I will bear for the rest of my life as a message to the world as to what I am about or was going through at the time. This is my newest addition.

As an mental health advocate and survivor of suicidal thoughts and depression I chose the word believe with a semicolon replacing the letter ‘i’.

This tattoo encourages me to bel;eve that things will be better and that this is not the end of my journey.

It’s one thing to just say aloud or to myself that even though times are hard that they will be better and things will be okay. It’s a total difference when you actually bel;eve that things will be better or different.

The bel;ef in a better way is what makes it happen. When you truly bel;eve that you will be okay, you will be. You have to bel;eve.

New Venture Alert: YouTube

So I decided to finally do it. I have been saying that I’m going to get back to it for the longest and just never did it. Now is no greater time. So many times we tell ourselves that  we are going to do something like start a diet, or read that book that has been sitting on the dresser for the last few months, tomorrow. Everything is tomorrow or next week or next month. We tend to want to wait on that perfect condition before we do anything. Guess what?  That perfect condition is never going to come. Just jump.

I decided to start my YouTube channel again. I’ve been wanting to do this for months but never got around to it. I even have videos locked and loaded. I didn’t post them mostly out of fear. I’m at a different chapter in my life and I’m afraid to turn the page.  No more of that I’m just going to take a leap of faith and if it works out great, if not at least I can say that I tried it. My conscience is clear.

Most of what I plan to discuss is what I discuss here. Just a hosh-posh mess of everything that I talk about here just in video form. Health & wellness, shoes, fashion, politics, tv & movies. You name it. Mostly I will be discussing health & wellness. Physically, mentally as well as spiritually. I think that men, especially black men, don’t discuss health much. Yeah we talk about how to maybe gain muscle or look big but we don’t delve into the mental side of things like depression. Taking care of your mind is just as important as taking care of yourself physically. I plan to make that my main goal.

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New Venture Alert

So in an attempt to broaden my financial horizons, I have taken on yet another venture. This time its all about Mugs and cups. I plan to eventually branch out to other things like t shirts and such but for now we’ll start with mugs. Just small things that will add up overtime. I’m not trying to work for someone else for the rest of my life. My goal is to have these little side ventures to help get out of debt by the year’s end. I am not in a whole heap of debt and could pay it off with my regular income but I could do it faster with the side projects. So tell a friend to tell a friend about me!

This is my first item in the Mug collection of The Upscale Life. Instructions for life; Wake. Drink. Slay.  



Bad Blood

KatyPerryTaylorSwiftOkay so it’s no secret that I’m a huge Tay Tay aka Taylor Swift fan. I’ve been down with her before the Kanye fiasco. Yes Tay Tay and I go way back!!  Anyway, I’ve been bumping her latest single ‘Bad Blood’ since I got the 1989 album. It is easily one of my favorite tracks on the album.  Tay Tay speaks some truth in those lyrics like ‘ bandaids don’t fix bullet holes. You say sorry just for show, if you live like that you live with ghosts’ meaning basically you can take your fake apology and disappear out of my life because I’m not here for you or your evilness.

This song’s theme can be applied to so many people in my life, or rather that used to be in my life. I am no longer living my life for others. Time to let go of the negativity and move on to the positivity.  There will always be people in your life for the season. everyone may not be meant to be in your life for the long haul. While, yes there are people who will be there for you until your dying day but there are also people who only need to be around for a short while to show or teach you something.

I Am Better Today Than I Was Yesterday

I have adapted a new mantra. “I am better today than I was yesterday”. Whether or not this is true doesn’t matter. The point of it is that I am better today no matter the situation because I am here today.

So many people went to sleep the night before assuming that they would be around the next day. This is something that I took for granted for a long time. I’m here for a purpose. Even though at this moment I’m not really sure of what that purpose is I know I’m here for one. I can’t let another day go by without saying and living my mantra.

This new way of thinking also helps me stay positive and moving ever forward. No matter how bad things are today I know that my life is better than it was yesterday. It helps me to realize that I am better today than I was yesterday because of the experiences of yesterday. Yesterday has taught me how to act today and today will teach me how to proceed tomorrow. I am better today than I was yesterday.