When You Believe…




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Every tattoo on my body has some personal meaning to it. This is a marking that, unless I have it covered, I will bear for the rest of my life as a message to the world as to what I am about or was going through at the time. This is my newest addition.

As an mental health advocate and survivor of suicidal thoughts and depression I chose the word believe with a semicolon replacing the letter ‘i’.

This tattoo encourages me to bel;eve that things will be better and that this is not the end of my journey.

It’s one thing to just say aloud or to myself that even though times are hard that they will be better and things will be okay. It’s a total difference when you actually bel;eve that things will be better or different.

The bel;ef in a better way is what makes it happen. When you truly bel;eve that you will be okay, you will be. You have to bel;eve.

New Venture Alert: YouTube

So I decided to finally do it. I have been saying that I’m going to get back to it for the longest and just never did it. Now is no greater time. So many times we tell ourselves that  we are going to do something like start a diet, or read that book that has been sitting on the dresser for the last few months, tomorrow. Everything is tomorrow or next week or next month. We tend to want to wait on that perfect condition before we do anything. Guess what?  That perfect condition is never going to come. Just jump.

I decided to start my YouTube channel again. I’ve been wanting to do this for months but never got around to it. I even have videos locked and loaded. I didn’t post them mostly out of fear. I’m at a different chapter in my life and I’m afraid to turn the page.  No more of that I’m just going to take a leap of faith and if it works out great, if not at least I can say that I tried it. My conscience is clear.

Most of what I plan to discuss is what I discuss here. Just a hosh-posh mess of everything that I talk about here just in video form. Health & wellness, shoes, fashion, politics, tv & movies. You name it. Mostly I will be discussing health & wellness. Physically, mentally as well as spiritually. I think that men, especially black men, don’t discuss health much. Yeah we talk about how to maybe gain muscle or look big but we don’t delve into the mental side of things like depression. Taking care of your mind is just as important as taking care of yourself physically. I plan to make that my main goal.

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New Venture Alert

So in an attempt to broaden my financial horizons, I have taken on yet another venture. This time its all about Mugs and cups. I plan to eventually branch out to other things like t shirts and such but for now we’ll start with mugs. Just small things that will add up overtime. I’m not trying to work for someone else for the rest of my life. My goal is to have these little side ventures to help get out of debt by the year’s end. I am not in a whole heap of debt and could pay it off with my regular income but I could do it faster with the side projects. So tell a friend to tell a friend about me!

This is my first item in the Mug collection of The Upscale Life. Instructions for life; Wake. Drink. Slay.  



Meeting My Goals

I’ve failed on so many levels so many times, yet I’m still here. There have been times when I wanted to quit and just give up but for some reason I just kept moving. Slowly but surely things got better and I was able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I am a very impatient person and I am quick to stop doing things when they don’t work out like I want. This has plagued me in many areas of my life from personal to business relationships. I am still working on this aspect but at least I know that it is a fault that I have and something that needs to change within me.

This is a transition year for me and I am determined to end it better than I did last year. I will accomplish the goals that I have set forth. I can no longer just rest on my laurels and say ‘oh well’ if I don’t reach my set goal. Starting off with simple attainable short terms goals and working my way to bigger long term goals. Once I get the smaller goals under my belt it will give me the confidence to achieve the bigger goals.

I am still a work in progress and I know that I will slip up now and again but overall I know that I am better this year than I was last. Today will be better than yesterday.

First Quarter Goals

It’s already almost halfway through the 2nd month of the year and 2/3 through the first quarter and I haven’t accomplished a single goal. I’m falling into the procrastination mode. I have set goals for each quarter of the year. I thought this would be an easier way to achieve them if I broke it down every 3 months. I still have time though.

My goals are simple this year. I plan to build on them every year. I find that simplicity works best for me. When I try to do too much at once things fall apart. The goals are simple and probably really familiar. You know the same old stuff; save money, spend more time with family and so forth.

The first half of the year I plan to pay off as much debt as possible and the second half of the year I plan to save as much as possible. During my pay down period I still plan to save. My plan for this year is to get out of debt and have a nest egg for the future.  So far I’m not really off to a good start. I was able to compile all of the debt that I have so far.  Some of them I wasn’t even aware that I had until I pulled my full credit report.. I think that by the end of these 6 months that I’ll pay off the majority of my debts since I don’t have much, but the small amount that I have needs to be taken care of.

I’m looking forward to this year and every year going forward to being more prosperous and financially minded in the future.  I don’t want to have to worry about not being able to do something or take care of an accident or mishap because of money. I don’t want to live that life anymore.  So the first 6 months is all about paying off debts and the next 6 months is all about saving money.