When You Believe…

sem·i·co·lon

ˈsemēˌkōlən,ˈsemīˌkōlən/

noun

a punctuation mark (;) indicating a pause, typically between two main clauses, that is more pronounced than that indicated by a comma.

Every tattoo on my body has some personal meaning to it. This is a marking that, unless I have it covered, I will bear for the rest of my life as a message to the world as to what I am about or was going through at the time. This is my newest addition.

As an mental health advocate and survivor of suicidal thoughts and depression I chose the word believe with a semicolon replacing the letter ‘i’.

This tattoo encourages me to bel;eve that things will be better and that this is not the end of my journey.

It’s one thing to just say aloud or to myself that even though times are hard that they will be better and things will be okay. It’s a total difference when you actually bel;eve that things will be better or different.

The bel;ef in a better way is what makes it happen. When you truly bel;eve that you will be okay, you will be. You have to bel;eve.

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Waste of Time/Money

One of the things that I despise in life is when someone tells me that something that I’m doing is a ‘waste of time’ or ‘waste of money’. Umm it’s my time and my money if I want to spend it doing something or buying something that I like them who are you to judge?

This came about because a coworker noticed the different bow ties and sneakers that I wear to work. As she was complimenting me on my style she asked how many bow ties and how many shoes I owned. I wasn’t/am not 100% sure so I gave her a round about figure, that I will not disclose here just know it’s more than 100 shoes but less than 300 shoes and about 40-50 plus bow ties. The next thing she says is ‘oh my gosh! That is such a waste of money’. Then she goes on to try and lecture me that there are people in the world that don’t own shoes. Girl, bye.

I was always taught to respect my elders so she didn’t get cursed out but she did get the side eye of death. I just politely said that it is my choice to use my disposable income how I see fit and that the shoes that I buy are not of her concern and that I find it rude to tell someone that something that they are doing is a waste of time.

She had me so mad! I really really wanted to curse her out but I didn’t. Who does that? Who are you to tell someone that something that they are doing is a waste of time? That’s just so rude to me.

Pulling Off That Casual Yet Dressy Vibe

Having a casual yet professional look is not always an easy thing to do. It’s not as simple as throwing on a pair of Jeans and a button down shirt and calling it a day. It involves careful planning and also having some confidence to pull the look off.

Start by wearing jeans that actually fit your body type. There are numerous websites that can assist you in finding the right jeans for your body type. I personally like the Levi’s jeans site and try their fit guide. And if you go into a Levi’s store there will more than likely be staff can help you find the right fit and maybe even a tailor on hand. I am only speaking from my personal experience but they are great at fittings and the jeans are not too expensive. You can also go to the larger more upscale department stores like Nordstrom or Von Maur and they can fit you as well. The main point is to find the jeans or pants that fit your body type. With jeans there is not one style that fits all. For example, I am about 5’6″ and around 135-140 lbs (yeah I know I’m small) so I would look best in a slim fit Jean. Not a skinny jean but slim fit. There is a difference.

Now on to the shirt. The button down shirt should not be too loose as it will make you look like a slob and the necktie or bowtie will not look right. If you button your shirt at the top and you can still stick your finger inside the collar and touch your neck it is too big. You can also get measured by a tailor or at a department store for the correct fit. I prefer the fitted dress shirt because it is a little tighter or form fitting than the regular fit but it is also not very forgiving so if you’ve had a few beers over the years and the gut to prove it then the slim or fitted may not be your best option. If you choose a regular fit I suggest that you try it on. This pretty much goes for all clothes really. A medium from one designer may actually be a small or large from another.

As you can tell having the correct fit is very important if you want to look any way other than a slob or bum. That look went out in the 90’s. The tailored look is in and hopefully for good.

Wearing a pair of sneakers with jeans a dress shirt and tie is okay for some occasions. I wear this combination often to work myself. Having the right pair of shoes is the key. You want something that will blend with the rest of the attire and not stick out too much. You don’t want it to look like you went to the gym before work and forgot to pack your dress shoes. You want it to look like the sneakers are a part of the outfit and something that you planned to do.

Something like this might work:

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What you are looking at is a pair of black slim fit jeans, a red gingham pattern button down fitted dress shirt, a silver/gray bow tie (I can never tell the colors apart) and a pair of black/gray/red sneakers to tie everything together. This is not a hard look to pull off but it can be a bit tricky. Try to Mix and match your casual and dress wear in your closet and see what you can come up with.