You’re Still Growing

When I was younger I always dreaded that question that every teacher or adult would ask. That question is ‘what do you want to be when you grow up’. This would cause me all types of anxiety as a 5 year old trying to plot out what I’m going to do for the rest of my life. How am I supposed to know this? I don’t even know what I’m having for lunch but you want me to be able to tell you what I want to do for the rest if my life? My answer was always whatever they wanted to hear. Doctor, lawyer, scientist, singer or whatever. I knew I probably wouldn’t be any of these things but if I said something popular like that, then they would get off my back, for right now at least.

That pressure to live up to others expectations haunted, and still haunts me to this day, me and caused all types of unnecessary stress. I was so busy trying to live up to what they wanted me to be that I never really figured out what I actually wanted to be. I was lost just floating around life not knowing which way was up. I still feel this way about life and my future.

The thing is there is no such thing as being grown. You’re still growing everyday. The moment you stop growing is the moment you die mentally. I don’t want to reach that point. I force myself to learn something new everyday. You’re never too old to follow your dreams and do what it is that you truly want to do.

New Venture Alert: YouTube

So I decided to finally do it. I have been saying that I’m going to get back to it for the longest and just never did it. Now is no greater time. So many times we tell ourselves that  we are going to do something like start a diet, or read that book that has been sitting on the dresser for the last few months, tomorrow. Everything is tomorrow or next week or next month. We tend to want to wait on that perfect condition before we do anything. Guess what?  That perfect condition is never going to come. Just jump.

I decided to start my YouTube channel again. I’ve been wanting to do this for months but never got around to it. I even have videos locked and loaded. I didn’t post them mostly out of fear. I’m at a different chapter in my life and I’m afraid to turn the page.  No more of that I’m just going to take a leap of faith and if it works out great, if not at least I can say that I tried it. My conscience is clear.

Most of what I plan to discuss is what I discuss here. Just a hosh-posh mess of everything that I talk about here just in video form. Health & wellness, shoes, fashion, politics, tv & movies. You name it. Mostly I will be discussing health & wellness. Physically, mentally as well as spiritually. I think that men, especially black men, don’t discuss health much. Yeah we talk about how to maybe gain muscle or look big but we don’t delve into the mental side of things like depression. Taking care of your mind is just as important as taking care of yourself physically. I plan to make that my main goal.

The link is here if you would like to subscribe. Check out my intro video below.

How I Stay Stress Free. Mostly…

let’s face it. We have all been stressed or overwhelmed at one or many points in our life. Life can be overwhelming at times. So much to do and so little time. I know I struggle with things like time management which causes me to stress over other things, which leads to other things. Stress is such a slippery slope.

One of the ways that I deal with the stress is through meditation. I find that this allows me to calm my nerves and be a better me. This may not work for everyone but it works wonders for me and if you’re dealing with stress or a stressful situation it can’t hurt to try.

One of my techniques is to control my breathing. Deep 3 second breaths in through my nose and out through the mouth. I do this a few times when I’m in the moment and need to clear some head space. To go deeper, I typically like to sit with my eyes and focus on nothing. Yes, focus on nothing. It is extremely harder than it sounds! After a while you get used to the idea and can do it for a certain amount of time before your mind wanders and needs to be brought back to center. When it wanders just bring it back to center and try again. I suggest starting out with 1 minute a day of quiet time. Nothing more and nothing less. Eventually you can go for longer sessions but to train your mind start slowly.

I give these tips and more on my podcast The Dope Clique Show.  You can take a listen below:

R.I.P. Prince Rogers Nelson

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Today the world lost an icon. The singer Prince passed away today. He was 57 years young.

I am the first to admit that I wasn’t the biggest Prince fan. Not that I hated him or anything but I wasn’t one of those die-hard fans that knew his albums in chronological order and could name all his hits plus the b-side cuts. I was a fan of the movie Purple Rain, his musical (yes it was a musical) Under the cherry moon as well as his radio hits.

While I may not know very much about Prince, I do understand that he is an icon. He will be truly missed while his legacy will live on for eternity.

The Dope Clique Show Podcast

So I got together with some friends and decided to start a podcast. This wasn’t some idea that came out of nowhere. We had been playing around with the idea for some years now and since this is the year of yes, we decided to just jump in and do it.  The name of the show is The Dope Clique Show.  This is basically a podcast where we have a fresh and frank conversation about life, love and everything in-between.

The crazy thing is that we talk everyday and all the time, so we decided hey why not record this and put it out there. We talk about any and everything via Skype, or google hangout like literally all day sometimes. The thing I love the most is that there isn’t anything that we can’t say to each other. Good or bad. Give the show a listen sometime and let me know what you think. What are we doing well, doing poorly, where you think we can make changes? All that good constructive criticism stuff. Remember we are the hosts, producers, engineers, mixers, directors and all. So any help would be greatly appreciated.

you can find us at www.dopeclique.com as well as on Soundcloud, iTunes and Stitcher. Please listen, rate and subscribe and don’t forget to tell a friend to tell a friend.

Useful Product Alert – Movie Pass

I love movies. I mean really love movies. Whether it’s a comedy, drama, action, romantic comedy it doesn’t really matter. I just love a good story. The problem with that is the cost. Have you been to the movie theater lately? Those prices are Highway robbery! That’s just for the ticket, let’s not even discuss the prices at the concession stand. You need to take out a small loan or mortgage the house just for a date night out.

blog_moviepass012This is a way around this though. That solution is movie pass. Movie Pass is a subscription service that allows for unlimited movie viewing during your month of service. The price for the month is $35 and there are a number of theaters that support the app. Basically, you pay the $35 monthly fee, just like other subscription services, and you have the ability to watch as many movies in that month as you can take.

The idea sounds great but I was a bit skeptical at first. How would this process work? What theaters will support it? Is it really worth it? You pay your monthly fee. There are a number of theaters that support it from big names like Regal and AMC to smaller local theaters. If you go to the movies more than 3 times per month, then it is definitely worth it. I also love that not only is it easy to use but it also works with those reward programs as well.

It is such an easy process to use. Once you sign up for the service you will receive your debit card in the mail a few days later. Once you get the card, download the app and activate the card. The next steps are how to use it at the theater;

  1. open the moviepass app and search by movie or theater.
  2. Once you’ve found the movie you want to see, just click on it (you need to be within 100 yards of the theater to be able to check in)
  3. After you have checked in, go to the kiosk or cashier and buy your ticket with the provided Movie Pass debit card (once you check in you have 30 minutes to buy your ticket. if time expires you just need to check in again)
  4. Enjoy your movie.

This is a great service for people like me that love going to the movies. It pays for itself in three visits (give or take) and the rest of the month is pretty much free. If you use reward programs like Regal crown club or AMC stubs that give you points for how much you spend than you are getting free points after that third or so visit. Gotta love free right?

I’ve been using it for about 2 months now and love it. The only issue I have, and it’s not really an issue actually, is that you can only see one movie per day.  I also have to log out and back into the app when I want to check in for some reason. This may just be a glitch with the app though. Still these issues are not deal breakers.

If you enjoy movies like me I suggest you check out Movie Pass.