On My Way To Kansas, Again

I’m on my way to see my sister and her family in Kansas for the last time. This trip will be bittersweet.  While I’m glad that I’ll be able to see my family because I miss them dearly, this will probably be the last time I see them for a long time.  They will be moving out of the country in a few months and there is no telling when I will be able to visit. I do have my passport ready though.

I know this trip is going to be a busy one. I’m going to try and cram some interviews in with the numerous pictures that I plan to take.  I really want to try and capture every moment that I can.  Who knows when  the next time will be that I see them. I want to be able to cherish these memories.

My Newest Water Bottles

So I love drinking water. I drink about 60 to 70 oz a day. I was told that a person should drink 1/2 of their body weight in ounces.  My love of water has led me to purchase a number of different water bottles in a variety of sizes, shapes, textures etc. You can’t exactly return them once you use them so I have a storage container full of them.

I think I’ve finally found the one. Well, at least the one for the house.  I was trying to find a large replacement water bottle that I could use at home that didn’t sweat. I love to fill my water bottle with ice and water and drink from it all day.  The problem I would have with that is the condensation that would build up around the bottle, and since it wasn’t insulated would make the ice melt faster.  I tried some double walled insulated water bottle before but they would crack or somehow not hold up. I think that had to do with me freezing them from time to time.

So this new one that I picked up is  stainless steel 64 oz behemoth of a water bottle. it is double walled and insulated and the other good thing is that it doesn’t give off that metallic smell or taste to the water problem that I’ve had with other stainless steel water bottles. It’s from the brand fiftyfifty and they have a number of different styles and sizes available. the only issue that I have had with it so far is the weight. This thing is heavy for a water bottle. Without the added weight of the ice and water it is still on the heavier side. I think that is because of the stainless steel though.  since I only use this one at home the weight issue is not a big deal or a deal breaker. I have a smaller 25 oz version that I can throw in my bag and take with me.  I have been using the smaller one on a daily basis on the go for the last week and it has held up greatly by keeping my ice and water fresh and cold all day, or until I drink it.

I knew the 64 oz was a good buy and that I needed to get more of them on the second day I got it. I filled it with ice and water at around 6 am and placed it on my kitchen counter. I was planning to take it to work and have it at my desk to drink from it throughout the day. I though if I used the big one I would have fewer trips for refills. Anyway, I forgot it and left it on the counter. I cam back at around 8:30 that night and there was still about 2/3 worth of ice left and the water was ice-cold and great. the outside of the bottle was nice and warm.  It was Pretty much room temperature to the touch yet the water was ice-cold. At that point I knew I had a good water bottle and needed to invest.

IMG_20150516_164805229The one on the left is 25 oz and the one on  the right is the 64 oz.

Hey Mama

Some days of the year are tough for me. My birthday, my mom’s birthday, mother’s day and the day she died. I dread these days and struggle to get through with a smile on my face.  Mother’s day is really difficult as I see all the Facebook and Instagram posts of people with their mother and I can’t be with mine.  It sucks.  Even though my mother passed away in 1999 I still feel the pain every year as if it is just as fresh as yesterday.

I can admit that I truly didn’t appreciate my mother and all the sacrifices that she made while she was here. Like most people, I began to appreciate after she was gone.  I wish I had spent more time with her and listened more. I miss her and I just wish she was here.

Beard Moisturizer?

So I decided to let my facial hair grow once again. I’ve had this love/hate relationship with my beard for a few years now.  I’ll let it grow out and then out of nowhere and for no apparent reason I’ll just wake up and chop it off.  This time I’m going to keep it for a while. Hopefully.

Anyway, as I was doing some online research for skin moisturizers, I have type 1 diabetes and my skin gets really dry at times, and for some reason I thought I typed face moisturizer but I must have spelled it wrong because Mr. Google asked if I meant beard moisturizer? So of course me being me I said yes and so many responses came back! I had no idea that there were so many moisturizers and oils just for your beard.

Some promoted softness, some promoted growth and others promoted just moisturizing and keeping it from drying out. I’m going to order a few and do some product testing.

I guess with the return of the beard that I should have known that this would be a thing, I just never really thought about it. I still have to order some moisturizer too so I guess I’ll get some of those and review them as well. The one that I’m currently using is from eyes lip face but they have discontinued it. I’ll check back later with my haul and what worked best.

The Four Agreements

So I just finished reading a book titled The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz. This is a fascinating book. It is basically a self help book that will have you reevaluate the way you think about what you say and how you deal with people as well as how you deal with what people say and do to you.

The four agreements are as follows:
1. Be impeccable with your words – nobody likes a Chatty Patty or Gossip Gary. Words really do have meaning. This is not the typical stick to your promises but rather your words have meaning and power. If you say someone is sounding stupid they will perceive that they are stupid but if you say what they are saying doesn’t make sense they may perceive that there is merely a misunderstanding and may look for a different way to explain things. Words mean things.

2. Don’t take things personally – people will project their evil or bad will onto you. That doesn’t mean that they really feel that way. A perfect example in the book was of a mother that came home from a stressful day at work with a major headache. Her young daughter was unaware of how her mother felt and was singing and dancing around and having a great time. It gets to a point where her mother can’t take it anymore and tells her to stop and that she has an ugly voice. She doesn’t really mean this but words mean things. Her daughter subsequently never sings again and becomes withdrawn and shy around people. She took it personally. When people do mean things it is a way of deflecting the evil off of them and on to you. Don’t let this affect you.

3. Don’t assume anything – when you assume things you are more than likely going to be wrong. Instead of guessing whether or not people understand you, make sure that they do.

4. Do your best – whatever your best is just do your best no more no less.

The toughest thing is to try and apply these agreements to your everyday life. Remember that if you fail at one of the agreements just start over. We all fall short at some point. The strength is in how we adapt to that setback and move forward.

This is a great book and I would definitely recommend checking it out.

Meeting My Goals

I’ve failed on so many levels so many times, yet I’m still here. There have been times when I wanted to quit and just give up but for some reason I just kept moving. Slowly but surely things got better and I was able to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I am a very impatient person and I am quick to stop doing things when they don’t work out like I want. This has plagued me in many areas of my life from personal to business relationships. I am still working on this aspect but at least I know that it is a fault that I have and something that needs to change within me.

This is a transition year for me and I am determined to end it better than I did last year. I will accomplish the goals that I have set forth. I can no longer just rest on my laurels and say ‘oh well’ if I don’t reach my set goal. Starting off with simple attainable short terms goals and working my way to bigger long term goals. Once I get the smaller goals under my belt it will give me the confidence to achieve the bigger goals.

I am still a work in progress and I know that I will slip up now and again but overall I know that I am better this year than I was last. Today will be better than yesterday.

American Crime

So there is a new show on ABC named American Crime. It comes on Thursday night right after Scandal. It’s the replacement for How To Get Away With Murder until it comes back next season.

The show is centered around the killing and alleged rape of this married couple. They follow the lives of everyone involved from the parents of the murdered son and hospitalized wife to the family and lives of the suspects involved. This show is a good look at race relations and how people view each other based not only on race but class as well.

The only issue I have with the show is how slow the pace is.  It may be the ADHD in me but I have a hard time concentrating on what is going on. I get bored quickly and begin doing other things leaving the show to be background noise, but the pace is so slow that when I do look up and pay attention I feel like I haven’t missed a thing.